Comments on: My Big Fat Secular Wedding

By: Aunt Donna

Aunt Donna — Fri, 15 May 2009 16:00:12 +0000

If you remember, we did not get married in a church. I tried to appease G & G and my inlaws by having a willing priest do the ceremony but he had a family emergency that morning & was replaced by a woman last-minute. I did hear some comments afterwards ( all of which I dismissed easily), nobody meant any harm, they were all said matter-of- factly. Anyhow, our marriage is not recognized by the church. The only time this came into play again was when Jim wanted to get the kids christened. The church asked that we get remarried (we haven’t) by a priest – anyway they went ahead & christened the first 2, we’ll see what happens with our third now. We cared very much about making our parents happy, and I didn’t care enough about what kind of ceremony we had, I just wanted it outside and on the water. It’s an easy one when you don’t feel strongly about religion. I cared more about the appetizers!
Now to veer completely off-topic —when you get pregnant, let me know how you feel about circumcision — do your research & get back to me, we’ll talk…

By: Joe

Joe — Fri, 15 May 2009 01:32:26 +0000

Hey Sara,

I was just talking to Chris about this actually, and I think realistically it could go either why. While obviously nobody in our immediate family will be concerned, I do wonder how some of the more religious guests will react. You know who I’m talking about.

Chris and I think that while some subtle religious remarks might be made, (traditional stuff like God Bless the Newlyweds or something) there probably won’t be anything “obnoxious” (which you are conversely refraining from as well). Most of the guest should be able to take the hint.

Your brother

By: eruvande

eruvande — Sat, 02 May 2009 22:15:02 +0000

My husband and I are both non-religious. All my people are Southern Baptist; most of his are Methodist. Without my permission and unbeknownst to me, my mom invited some folks from her church to our wedding. One of them jumped on our officiant right afterward (he practices Tibetan Buddhism, is ordained Unitarian, and performed a completely non-religious ceremony for us) to ask him what business he had marrying people if he wasn’t going to mention God. >_<

Apart from that it went off pretty well. But then it was also a medieval-style wedding to which we invited people to come in costume, so there was enough else to look at that people didn’t bother with the God stuff, I think.

Congratulations and I hope it goes off well for you too!

By: Sarah M.

Sarah M. — Sat, 02 May 2009 00:16:26 +0000

Congrats on your engagement…however delayed this may be. Also, glad to see you guys are still alive! I was worried when I stopped getting updates on my RSS feed.

By: Sara

Sara — Fri, 01 May 2009 22:24:40 +0000

Hopefully, interesting in a good way!

By: Gwen

Gwen — Fri, 01 May 2009 22:08:30 +0000

The wedding just got more interesting!!